I know. She was my first rat (aside from Skittles, who I got at the same time, but she died a few days later
), and I didn't really know what to do. I had done tons of reading and lurking on forums, and I knew theoretically what to do with a rat like that, but it was quite different actually experiencing it... especially with no prior experience with rats. I had heard only good things about forced socialization. Everyone pretty much guaranteed it would work with any rat. And since I couldn't really get her to slowly trust me (all I ever read about that was leaving your hand in the cage - but she would bite it), there wasn't much else I could do.
After I gave up on the forced socialization, I kind of left her alone mostly. I would talk to her, pet her a little bit, but other than some attempts with the towel method, I haven't tried handling her. I let her sniff my hands, but I take them away before she even tries to bite, and somehow that seems to be working. She's also older now, I'm guessing around 7 or 8 months, so maybe that's helping too.
I've been doing my best with her, and hopefully it's finally starting to help ^_^