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So, I decided I needed to have a little rant.
I had this best friend, best friends since JK! I can see clearly now that she is not worthy of that status. Far from, actually.
She has abandoned me, and I am so incredibly bothered by the fact that she did what she did. I don't even know how to start this little 'story', so I'll just start off with a little background info of sorts, I guess.
Her and I had been friends pretty much all of our lives, we clicked that first day of JK, and we were a little duo. In school, I was friends with her, and really only her. I don't get along well with other people, I never have, I'm shy and socially awkward (I honestly think I have some social anxiety going on). But she got along well with others, and she had other friends.
She was pretty much all I had. We were in the same class I believe all but one year. We never really got the chance to hangout at my place or hers, but in seventh grade when we were older and able to do our own thing, she would come over almost every day after school. There were days though that we would plan for her to come over, then at the end of the day she would tell me she just doesn't want to come over anymore and she'll come over tomorrow. She wouldn't ever give me an actual reason, yet I knew what it was. She was going over to another friend of ours house, who she's much closer with. She would never admit it, and would lie about it. But I shrugged that off.
After grade eight, I moved in with my dad and his parents, 20 or so minutes from where my mom lives, and she lives. We Skyped all the time, I visited every weekend, we talked on the Xbox and played games. Everything was good. But being in a new school for highschool, I definitely had nobody, and I was alone there. I still am, I hate it there. (I'm in grade 11 right now.) But she was all I had, I honestly used to cry at nights because I hate this dumb school and the people there. But anyways, some guy started talking to me on Facebook August of 2012, and in December of that year we started dating, and we have been since. I began to spend my weekends with him at my mom's, as he lives 20 or so minutes away as well, so I only get to see him on weekends. I spent less time with my best friend, but we talked constantly, and she claimed to not have a problem with it. She actually encouraged me to spend my time with him because I could spend time with her whenever I wanted to.. which isn't true, it's no different than my boyfriend. But yeah. We still spent time together, I brought her hiking with me for my birthday, we went to the movies together, we did stuff.
Now, at the end of May to the beginning of June, she suddenly started ignoring me. She wouldn't message me back on Facebook, she wouldn't answer my texts. This was frustrating, like, I would have at least liked to know why she wasn't able to respond for some reason. My birthday is in June, and I texted her telling her that if she was going to ignore me like this, then she wasn't welcome to come hiking for my birthday. She still didn't respond. But a few days later I simply texted her "Hey." and she responded. "Hi." I demanded to know what her problem was, and she said there was no problem, that she was just really sick and said she hadn't been talking to anybody for those couple weeks. I decided to believe her, you know, I should be able to. I know she was sick, and put on antibiotics, she was truthful about that.
Well, we talked and talked, and we planned to go horseback riding that weekend, the weekend prior to our hiking. My boyfriend, me, and her had a lovely time horseback riding. But that is the last time I actually saw her. We no longer talk.
Here we are at the actual issue! My birthday passed, the hiking weekend was growing closer. Finally the day came to pick her up for the weekend. (I have thought it was June 26th, but that was the Thursday, and I don't recall us planning to have a three day weekend. But whatever.) I woke up that morning and we immediately began texting, she suddenly said that she probably wasn't going to be able to go hiking because her half-brother was in a car accident and her parents wanted her to go see him. (That's two hours away.) She said she was going to come anyways, and told me she was going to be there when my dad and I got there to pick her up, I believed her. Then, an hour before my dad and I are to leave to get her, she begins to send me normal text messages instead of imessages. (Unusual, unless she wasn't home.) When I questioned that, she told me that her cat unplugged the internet cord and she hasn't plugged it back in yet. Again, I believed her. But then she stopped responding to my texts. I figured, and was fairly certain that she was lying about something, and she wasn't going to be there when my dad and I got there. SURE ENOUGH! She wasn't there. Straight up lied to me.
That is the last I talked to her, she has been ignoring every text I sent her since that day. That made me very angry. "Some best friend you are." I sent her that, nothing I said she replied to. Honestly? At least be mature enough to tell me WHY you are ignoring me, seriously. It's really pathetic. Ohhh ho ho, I thought I was angry then? Welp. After a month of her constantly ignoring me, I went to our mutual friend (the one she would constantly ditch me for and not admit it). I texted her, wondering what was going on. Turns out, my best friend's brother was in no kind of car accident. WOW. Also, she wouldn't talk to me when she was sick that whole couple weeks, but she had talked to this mutual friend. Double wow! I asked the mutual friend to look into it, but she had no success, I finally just told her to tell my best friend that I was done trying, this was pathetic. Guess what my best friend apparently had to say to that? "Ok." That was the last time I bothered trying to communicate with her.
It's funny, because at our annual fall fair, I happened to be standing behind her and said mutual friend. She had the nerve to turn around, give me a a somewhat snotty look, and say "Hi." The turn around. All I said to that was "I don't want to talk to you."
Honestly, you have to be a really pathetic person to suddenly drop your best friend like a rock after twelve years of friendship.. and with no reason?! UGH. It is so frustrating, and angers me to no end. It's just me, my boyfriend, and my animals now. I'm all alone. But I honestly just don't even care anymore. I'm sorry to say, but I'm glad I chose to put more effort into spending time with my boyfriend instead of her, because she was clearly not worth it, nobody who is going to do that is.
Sorry, it's so long, and a ridiculous story. But I was just reading about something similar to this, and I felt the need to rant. If you read through all of this, that's kind that you took the time to do so, and I'm sorry if it felt like a waste of your time.
I had this best friend, best friends since JK! I can see clearly now that she is not worthy of that status. Far from, actually.
She has abandoned me, and I am so incredibly bothered by the fact that she did what she did. I don't even know how to start this little 'story', so I'll just start off with a little background info of sorts, I guess.
Her and I had been friends pretty much all of our lives, we clicked that first day of JK, and we were a little duo. In school, I was friends with her, and really only her. I don't get along well with other people, I never have, I'm shy and socially awkward (I honestly think I have some social anxiety going on). But she got along well with others, and she had other friends.
She was pretty much all I had. We were in the same class I believe all but one year. We never really got the chance to hangout at my place or hers, but in seventh grade when we were older and able to do our own thing, she would come over almost every day after school. There were days though that we would plan for her to come over, then at the end of the day she would tell me she just doesn't want to come over anymore and she'll come over tomorrow. She wouldn't ever give me an actual reason, yet I knew what it was. She was going over to another friend of ours house, who she's much closer with. She would never admit it, and would lie about it. But I shrugged that off.
After grade eight, I moved in with my dad and his parents, 20 or so minutes from where my mom lives, and she lives. We Skyped all the time, I visited every weekend, we talked on the Xbox and played games. Everything was good. But being in a new school for highschool, I definitely had nobody, and I was alone there. I still am, I hate it there. (I'm in grade 11 right now.) But she was all I had, I honestly used to cry at nights because I hate this dumb school and the people there. But anyways, some guy started talking to me on Facebook August of 2012, and in December of that year we started dating, and we have been since. I began to spend my weekends with him at my mom's, as he lives 20 or so minutes away as well, so I only get to see him on weekends. I spent less time with my best friend, but we talked constantly, and she claimed to not have a problem with it. She actually encouraged me to spend my time with him because I could spend time with her whenever I wanted to.. which isn't true, it's no different than my boyfriend. But yeah. We still spent time together, I brought her hiking with me for my birthday, we went to the movies together, we did stuff.
Now, at the end of May to the beginning of June, she suddenly started ignoring me. She wouldn't message me back on Facebook, she wouldn't answer my texts. This was frustrating, like, I would have at least liked to know why she wasn't able to respond for some reason. My birthday is in June, and I texted her telling her that if she was going to ignore me like this, then she wasn't welcome to come hiking for my birthday. She still didn't respond. But a few days later I simply texted her "Hey." and she responded. "Hi." I demanded to know what her problem was, and she said there was no problem, that she was just really sick and said she hadn't been talking to anybody for those couple weeks. I decided to believe her, you know, I should be able to. I know she was sick, and put on antibiotics, she was truthful about that.
Well, we talked and talked, and we planned to go horseback riding that weekend, the weekend prior to our hiking. My boyfriend, me, and her had a lovely time horseback riding. But that is the last time I actually saw her. We no longer talk.
Here we are at the actual issue! My birthday passed, the hiking weekend was growing closer. Finally the day came to pick her up for the weekend. (I have thought it was June 26th, but that was the Thursday, and I don't recall us planning to have a three day weekend. But whatever.) I woke up that morning and we immediately began texting, she suddenly said that she probably wasn't going to be able to go hiking because her half-brother was in a car accident and her parents wanted her to go see him. (That's two hours away.) She said she was going to come anyways, and told me she was going to be there when my dad and I got there to pick her up, I believed her. Then, an hour before my dad and I are to leave to get her, she begins to send me normal text messages instead of imessages. (Unusual, unless she wasn't home.) When I questioned that, she told me that her cat unplugged the internet cord and she hasn't plugged it back in yet. Again, I believed her. But then she stopped responding to my texts. I figured, and was fairly certain that she was lying about something, and she wasn't going to be there when my dad and I got there. SURE ENOUGH! She wasn't there. Straight up lied to me.
That is the last I talked to her, she has been ignoring every text I sent her since that day. That made me very angry. "Some best friend you are." I sent her that, nothing I said she replied to. Honestly? At least be mature enough to tell me WHY you are ignoring me, seriously. It's really pathetic. Ohhh ho ho, I thought I was angry then? Welp. After a month of her constantly ignoring me, I went to our mutual friend (the one she would constantly ditch me for and not admit it). I texted her, wondering what was going on. Turns out, my best friend's brother was in no kind of car accident. WOW. Also, she wouldn't talk to me when she was sick that whole couple weeks, but she had talked to this mutual friend. Double wow! I asked the mutual friend to look into it, but she had no success, I finally just told her to tell my best friend that I was done trying, this was pathetic. Guess what my best friend apparently had to say to that? "Ok." That was the last time I bothered trying to communicate with her.
It's funny, because at our annual fall fair, I happened to be standing behind her and said mutual friend. She had the nerve to turn around, give me a a somewhat snotty look, and say "Hi." The turn around. All I said to that was "I don't want to talk to you."
Honestly, you have to be a really pathetic person to suddenly drop your best friend like a rock after twelve years of friendship.. and with no reason?! UGH. It is so frustrating, and angers me to no end. It's just me, my boyfriend, and my animals now. I'm all alone. But I honestly just don't even care anymore. I'm sorry to say, but I'm glad I chose to put more effort into spending time with my boyfriend instead of her, because she was clearly not worth it, nobody who is going to do that is.
Sorry, it's so long, and a ridiculous story. But I was just reading about something similar to this, and I felt the need to rant. If you read through all of this, that's kind that you took the time to do so, and I'm sorry if it felt like a waste of your time.
I'm not sure if my ramble hurts or helps. Your post just reminded me of my own business. If I could tell my friend one thing I would just say "I miss when we had fun together. I'm sorry things got so complicated."
