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Today was a pretty good day, until i'm in the grocery store and i get a call. Well it's my boyfriends bother telling me they can't find Fiona(my rat). So at this point i'm mad and confused. because i cant figure out how she got out. well it turns out no one touched her but my boyfriends mother who just so happens to hate my rat(lives at my boyfriends house). She claims she didnt see her when she took her outside this morning(yes once i leave she takes her and puts her outside in her cage YES THIS IS ANIMAL ABUSE, i was in the process of moving her to my mothers house) and didnt see Fiona in her cage but thought she was just in her house. KNOWING fiona always comes out to greet people. I have cried all day in disbelief and guilt. That i could have moved her to my moms house quicker or I hadn't have gotten her anyways even though she said it was fine. I'm not only mad that I know his mother did this to me, but to fiona. A poor innocent animal. I have no tolerance for this. Not only was she my pet, but she was my outlet. I have clinical depression and ocd. and she severly helped the two. I normaly pull my hair out when i'm stressed or anxious and i hadnt since i got her. I feel like a horrible person for letting this happen. And no one understands that no, she isn't "just a rat" she was so much more than that. Now I have realized that I don't need to get a rat until I live with my mom forawhile and get a rat settled in and on a shedual where i can see it often not just having my mom play with it. I just feel so bad right now, for fiona mostly. That i let her down and that no one understands how i feel. I'm just thankful some people love rats and understand that they arent just food.
 

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I'm so sorry. Try leaving her cage out there with some food and water in it. There's a chance she'll make it back in there. *crosses fingers*

Your boyfriend's Mum sounds like a heartless woman, if she did this on purpose (not to mention putting the rat outside in the first place.)
 

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i'm very sorry.... this makes me horribly mad. It's people like her that give mother-in-laws a bad name (i know you're not married just saying)

Maybe you can put a few humane traps around with food with out telling the evil woman. I wish you the best of luck. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
 

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the **** is wrong with people. *%$#$%@! just a rat or not,its still a pet and family.jeez I even cry when one of my fish die or something.
 

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thanks everyone that all really means a lot! i just really hope she finds her way back home. Poor thing is probably terrified out there. I feel so horrible for letting it happen
 

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Ah well its not your fault at all.She'll probably find her way back,she'll need food and water at some point,so shes bound to come running back bruxing to her mom hehe.
 

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HAve you tried sitting out there calling her gently? perhaps she will respond to your voice? It was so not your fault but you may want to think about telling your BF what his mother did. I would have FREAKED on her!
 

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he was the one who thought about it. because she came up with this whole scenario, that she didnt see fiona in her cage but she figured she was sleeping when she knows fiona comes to sniff the persons hand or as soon as she hears someone comes out to greet them. and i wanted to yell at her so bad. I was so frustrated/heartbroken/confused why someone would do something so cruel i had to go home. I think my boyfriend is one of the only boyfriend who would cry with his girlfriend because she lost her pet. lol but i was so upset, i still am. I have been crying off and on all day. I think rats should get way more credit then people give them. They really are soothing little things. I had a really stressful year this year. and fiona pulled me through it, just letting me take care of her. now i just feel like i let her down, let myself down, and now i feel like I'm a hypocrit for letting something happen to my fiona that I hate for people to do to their animals.
 

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^^ what everyone else said. hopefully she comes back to the cage when she's hungry and thirsty.
 

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Im so sorry taralyncouture, I really hope she turns up! Its sad to think there are people like your BF's mom out there...what an evil b****.
 

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its not your fault at all hun :( . keep a lookout for her. i would have some not so kind words with that mother in law to be of yours...

you can try going to the store and getting some rat traps (the friendly ones!)
 

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oh my goodness! oh my goodness! oh my goodness! oh my goodness!
First off let me explain me relationship with my boyfriends father. He thinks of me as the daughter he never had and i like to give myself credit through helping josh with a lot of **** he's been through lawfully and emotionaly lol, so he does everything for me. He has pickin me up from places and taken me places, when he takes josh NO WHERE. He talks to me about work, and his wife, and josh. He's just a really nice man, I think of him as more of a father figure than my own. Well he calls this morning at 5 something(meaning he was at work otherwise the nagging beast of my boyfriends mother would have probably never had said a word) and he tells me fiona is safe and he put her back in her cage and that he found her this morning. I am so thankful rats are so smart, and my boyfriends dad is so sweet and loves me haha. Thankyou everyone for your thoughts!
Needless to say i'm trying to get fiona out of that household as soon as possible(she doesnt live with me because my grandma who i live with has a phobia of rodents haha). So hopefully today or tommorw she'll be safe for good and at my moms. Thanks agian everyone!
 

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That is so wonderful that she was found!

Your boyfriends mother is evil (much like my MIL someone who I could see doing that too). It's nice that is father is a different story though. :)

I would be tempted to padlock the cage.

BTW I have trichotillomania as well (though it is mild) as well as social anxiety disorder so I know what it's like. :(
 

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I'm so glad she's been found!
 

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trisnic said:
BTW I have trichotillomania as well :(
Wow i'm glad someone else knows what it actually is called, if i had written that it probably would have sounded like a flesh eating disease. haha
and yes thank you everyone, i am so glad shes back where she belongs. He said he saw this white thing run across the yard from under the shed to a tree, and he called her name and she ran right into his hand. the poor baby
 
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